People who prefer to be alone are total badasses, new study shows
People, who are introverted, meaning they prefer their own company to that of others, are generally given the label of being anti-social. Often people feel sorry for them, as they are lonely and wish that they might be able to break the barrier that separates them from society. Wanting to be alone is often seen as a weakness, but a new study suggests otherwise. The study revealed that people wanting to be along are generally badasses.
People Who Spend Time Alone Are Powerful and Strong
Bella DePaulo, a social psychologist, dedicated a huge part of her career to loners and had written a book sharing writing about people who prefer to be alone. The book and writings explain that it is not just her opinion, but there are reasons based on science as to why she believes that the people who spend time alone are strong and powerful. Her writings touch on just about everything from wanting to live alone to the positive psychology of being alone and benefits of living a life on your own.
One of the most important topics when talking about the concept of being alone and one that is often the first thought those have that are presented with the topic is single life. Today society paints a picture of being children, of true happiness being found in a special someone in your life, someone destined to spend the rest of your life with. This brings about the desire to find true love along with instilling a fear of being single and of living alone.
Study Revealed Fear of Living Single Life Influences Choices
DePaulo talks about a study with the title of “Settling for Less out of Fear of Being Single.” The study was undertaken by Stephanie Spielmann and a team from the University of Toronto. The study looked into how the fear of living a single life could influence the choices of people and encourage people to settle for something less than what they deserved to avoid being alone. This was said to result in situations that were negative, including anxious attachment.
True Loners Do Not Fear Living Alone
DePaulo calls those who do not have any fear of being alone “true loners” as they embrace time spent on their own. The doctor said that these people do not fall into the bracket of being neurotic and scared. They are badasses who know their true worth and who want to find happiness alone instead of settling for someone that is less than what they deserve. She went on to say that, their happiness was not dependent on the validation of others.